Pray with Fire: God’s people pray in love, not prey in lust.
Key Verses: 2 Chronicles 7:14 NLT, Revelation 3:20 NLT
YouVersion Bible Plan: The Great Adventure
Leader Video (coming soon)
This week, we’re exploring the idea that to live a life of purity, we need the weapon of prayer. Just as our phones need a charger, we need our power source—prayer. But we don’t just want to pray drive-by prayers—throwing up wish lists to God when we feel like it. Instead, we’re building a daily discipline of praying. We’re challenging ourselves to resist temptation and fight for purity by pursuing God.
This week’s big question is this: What would it look like if our students walked with God like their generation had never seen before?
Help your students understand that prayer starts as a discipline long before it becomes a devotion, but soon enough, we’ll start understanding the idea that we are powerless without it. Challenge your students to build the habit by doing a 10-10-10 challenge—more on that below.
- Do a 10-10-10 challenge. For the next week, as a group, commit to taking on this challenge and see what changes in your life.
- First, spend 10 minutes reading the Bible. Maybe you even start The Great Adventure Bible Plan and use that as your 10-minute reading.
- Then, you spend 10 minutes praying. Students can journal their prayers, write them on their phones, say them in silence or out loud.
- Finally, spend 10 minutes in total silence, listening to what God is saying to you. Prayer is a conversation, so we’re making space to listen in a world that often never stops long enough to experience stillness.
- Every day, hold your students accountable by asking them how it’s going. And next week, follow up with your students and see how it went. It may feel awkward or uncomfortable at first, but this habit can be transformative if your students will give it a shot.
Lay with Fire: Sex is sacred.
Key Verses: Mark 10:6-9 NLT, 1 Corinthians 6:9-12 NLT
YouVersion Bible Plan: Swipe Right
This week, we’re continuing the conversation about purity with gut-level honesty. Through a powerful message from the pastor of Transformation Church, Michael Todd, we’ll explore the idea that sex is sacred. In our casual, hook-up culture, the world tries to get our students to settle for less than God’s best for them. But God actually created sex, and He knows that it’s best when it’s in the right container—marriage.
So, what would it look like if we had a generation of students who refused to buy the cheap lies culture teaches and instead embrace the idea that their loving Creator has a greater story for them? We are challenging our students to understand the idea that sex is reserved for covenant relationships—marriage—because it provides so much more security and protection.
The goal of tonight is to alleviate shame for students who may have already crossed the line while also convicting our students to set boundaries today so that they can resist temptations tomorrow. You can help by creating a safe space for students to be raw, open, and honest about their ideas and their struggles. So, get ready to lead through some big conversations, and make sure you listen first and then respond in grace and truth.
- Start off with honesty. We know talking about sex can get awkward really quickly. But you’ve got this. You have everything you need to facilitate this conversation, so lean in, trust God, and go for it. Start the conversation with honesty. Your students have to trust you with their real thoughts, not just what they think are the “right” ones. It won’t matter if students give you the answers you want to hear now but then go and do the wrong things later. So, start off with honesty. Ask your students if they agree with what Pastor Michael talks about. Ask why or why not, and allow for a healthy debate about what they really think before you correct them in how they should think or behave.
- Offer grace and truth. Don’t shame students for past choices or their current opinions. Offer grace in abundance, and talk about how the grace of God covers all the shame from sin. But, steer your students toward truth. Don’t just give trite answers like, “God says it, so we must believe it,” or “It’s in the Bible.” Instead, look up appropriate verses WITH your students. Ask them how it influences their opinion. Talk about how God’s original plan for sex is better for us because sex has lingering effects we don’t often consider. Ask them about how they’d feel if their future spouse has had a ton of sexual partners before them. Then ask them to consider what story they want to tell to their future spouse. Make the consequences appeal to where they are right now, and explain that God has the best plan for sex because He’s the one who made it in the first place.
- Partner with parents. We’re giving parents an exciting opportunity for their students to get a break from culture’s lies about sex and to be faced with God’s truth about it. Let your students’ parents know you’re talking about sex in a healthy, God-honoring way. Send them the messages and resources. Let them know how your conversations are going. And encourage them to continue the conversation at home where your Switch group leaves off.
Play with Fire: Purpose is better than passion.
Key Verses: Proverbs 6:27 NIV, John 10:10 NIV
YouVersion Bible Plan: Dateable
Culture feeds us a lot of lies about sex, and we’re combatting those lies with God’s truth in a message all about purity. We’ll uncover how sex has been distorted from God’s original design.
For this conversation to be effective, you’ll need to facilitate a safe space for students to bring their unfiltered, raw thoughts about purity. Don’t shame students for sharing or for past mistakes, but instead steer them toward a healthy, biblically centered view on why God’s plan for sex is so much better than the cheap imitation culture offers.
Help them establish respect for themselves, for God, and for the people around them by adopting standards now that will set them up to succeed later. Are they happy with how close to the line they’ve been living? Hold them accountable to living out what it looks like to honor God with every part of their lives—including their purity.
- Facilitate an honest conversation in your group. Students shouldn’t be so scared of giving the wrong answers that they never give you their real ones. Let students present their unfiltered ideas and opinions, and challenge them to think about why they believe what they believe. As a group, brainstorm some standards for how you can avoid the temptation to play with fire and instead how you can pursue God passionately.
- Challenge your students to develop an action step after tonight’s message. What are some ways they have been playing with fire? Encourage them to find an accountability partner, to start the Bible Plan, and to set up filters and restrictions on their phones and computers so that they can start pursuing a life of purity—not a life filled with choices they’ll regret later.
So … About Purity: What do you think about purity?
Key Verses: 1 Peter 1:14-16 NIV
Extra Resources: The Dating Collection on Finds.Life
Video to Watch: The Bible Project: Holiness
Tonight is another #SwitchOut—an opportunity for Switch groups to meet outside of Switch and either do a fun activity together or talk about some content in an informal setting. We’ve loved seeing your posts of activities you’re doing outside of Switch with your students, and we’re giving you another chance to do that this week. Make sure you get permission from parents about where your students will meet you, and keep them in the loop about what you’ll talk about or do.
This week is a great opportunity to introduce our monthly topic in a low-key way, because during the month of February, we’ll be talking all about purity. Tonight is a great way to have an initial, informal conversation about what students think purity is, why it matters, and what it means to us today. Before you get into tonight’s content, here’s a brief glimpse at our heart for the month of February:
Fire can purify or annihilate. Fire in the right context provides warmth, light, and life. Fire uncontrolled is devastating. We’re not sugarcoating it. We’re talking about what happens between bodies, hearts, minds, and souls when two people are sexually intimate. We’re undoing shame and secrets and making sex sacred again.
Action Steps for SwitchOut:
So, during SwitchOut, you can set up the idea of holiness and purity. If you choose to do content tonight, you’ll watch The Bible Project Video called “Holiness” (linked above) with your students, watch the @lcswitch Instagram Story for some fun icebreaker questions, and check out your leader video for more tips and tricks. Then, you can use your leader guide as normal for some more questions to get your students thinking.
The win for tonight is to make your group feel like a family because when you do, your students will be able to let their guards down and be fully transparent as we enter some deep conversations this semester. If that works best for your group by going to a movie, just hanging out and playing Fortnight, or going out for ice cream, that is great as well!
Thank you for all you’re doing to invest in students and lead them closer to Jesus. Switch truly does exist for students but would be impossible without leaders, so thank you again for all you do to build the Church.